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Moving Challenge 2: Elphie, Elphie, Elphie

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As you may know, I have this dog. This really cute dog. Her name is Elphie.

Elphie

Hi, Elphie. Yes, it is adorable that you're eating your puppy's ear.

This adorable dog is also a somewhat anxious dog. Bichons are known for separation anxiety and when she was around two years old, it hit her pretty bad. Like, neighbor telling us that she was barking for an hour at a time, multiple times a day, and that he was concerned that she missed us. Yes, we felt like terrible puppy parents. She went to daycare one day a week, and that sometimes seemed to help. Once we found out about the daytime barking, we sought other solutions. The thundershirt seemed to help a little more. And so did dosing her with rescue remedy.

Also in ways we failed as dog parents, we never really finished her crate training. “Never going in the bedroom” quickly went to “Okay, she can go in the bedroom, but not on the bed” down the slippery slope to “Yeah, she sleeps on our bed almost every night.” It happens. We got her an adorable travel bag when she was little, but she avoided that thing like the plague. She likes her space, whatever. When the move became a Thing That Is Really Happening For Real, we realized that we might have a problem on our hands. How do we get this adorable anxious dog who doesn’t like confined spaces across the country?

A drive cross-country was in the plans for a while, but now I realize that, seriously, five days in a car would stressed her out like no one’s business. I started researching the options for flying. At sixteen pounds, she technically fit within most airline’s in-cabin animal weight limits. But she would be super-cramped in the proper size carrier. I had to choose between two non-ideal options: Put her in a larger, hardsided carrier (that she had taken to hanging out in at home while packing was happening) and check her in temperature-controlled pressurized cargo or cram her into a carrier and take her on board with me. With option one, she’d have more space, but she’d be without me to comfort her and I was afraid she’d whine the whole flight (let alone me being a wreck worrying about her). With option two, she’d be crammed, but with me. But what if she whined and freaked out? What would I do?

I got a couple of kinds of bags from a local store: The Sherpa Delta Branded Medium carrier and the Bergen Large carrier. The Bergen was closer to the airline’s dimensions (still a tad over, but squishable), but was the same design that made Elphie claustrophobic before. The Sherpa was bigger, and not squishable, but Elphie took to it very easily. Unfortunately, after reading some information on DogJaunt I realized that the Sherpa may not fly. And since I was traveling Virgin America to have a non-stop flight, I didn’t want to take the chance she’d be kicked off (they don’t take pets in cargo at all). So I had to make the Bergen work. I put treats in it, put toys in it, left it out and open around the place… everything to make her comfortable with it. I don’t think she ever liked it, but she definitely tolerated it for small periods of time.

When the day came to fly, I hadn’t had her in it as much as I’d wanted to, so I was a little worried. My parents took me to the airport and I had her in the back with me. About an hour away from the airport, I got her into the carrier in the car, with surprising ease, and she just chilled in there for the rest of the ride. I was so relieved. My parents helped me with my bags as I brought Elphie to the counter. One of the counter agents joked that her co-worker was having a bad day and needed a hug and I said “Well, I’ve got a puppy; will petting a dog do?” I opened up the little head part of the carrier and three counter-agents ooh’d and aah’d as I was checked in. I couldn’t get her head back in, so I held onto her, head poking out, as my parents gave me goodbye hugs and I got myself somewhere quieter. I got some food and then took her outside to the Pet Relief Area to try to get her to pee before we passed the point of no return (security). We stopped a couple of times on the way down, but all the newness was too distracting and the same proved true in the animal relief area. And I’d forgotten to bring any pee pads. Oops. After twenty minutes in the heat and no progress, I gave up and fought her back in her case to get to security.

At security, I had to take her out again. All passengers traveling with pets have to have their hands swabbed, but this was all the extra screening I had to have, which was nice. As I gathered up my stuff, one of the TSA officers said that since I had a leash for her, I didn’t have to put her back in until the plane; I could let her walk to the gate. This was the best thing that had happened all day. Elphie was so much more at ease getting to walk around and look at everything happening around her. And she definitely attracted attention, which she was surprisingly chill about. She even let one woman pet her.

Elphie, people watching in the airport

I tried to get her to pee one last time (in the bathroom, using paper towels in lieu of pee pads), but it was a lost cause. I just hoped she could hold it until San Francisco. I struggled to get her back in the carrier, but eventually won the fight and we boarded.

She was amazingly good as I placed her under the seat, and after some adjustment, she settled and didn’t make a peep through the flight. The middle seat was free and the man on the aisle seat was a dog owner himself, so he didn’t mind me putting her up on the seat during flight. I took the opportunity to open up the head part and she just laid down and dozed for most of the flight while I occasionally gave her treats or some ice. I placed her head back in and put her back under during some choppy bits, but let her head out when she got a little fussy later. She wouldn’t let me get it back in for landing, but she was fine otherwise. I waited to deplane last and once I was in the terminal asked if I could let her out, which the gate agent said was fine. We walked along the terminal in San Francisco airport to meet my husband, who was a little shocked to see her out and walking. After a pit stop at the Pet Relief Area (and another ten minutes before she FINALLY went), we were on our way to a comfy bed for the night.

Overall, flying with Elphie was a great experience and much better than I thought it would be. The ticket and gate agents with Virgin America were great, as was the flight crew. One attendant did notice Elphie on the seat and reminded me that, technically, she was supposed to be under the seat, but if the other passenger didn’t mind, it was okay. I don’t think any other passengers even realized that I had a pet with me, as I got a few surprised looks when they were deplaning.

Next time, I would definitely remember pee pads, although fortunately, I didn’t need them. Everything else went pretty smoothly. Flying with a pet caused extra stress, but after seeing how well she took to it, I definitely wouldn’t count her out of future trips.

Chris has totally caved

Elphie Category

When Chris and I got Elphie, there was one solid, carved in stone rule. Elphie would not be allowed on the bed. As I mentioned in the post about searching for a puppy, Chris is allergic to most dogs. With Elphie, he’s not so bad, but if she licks him right after he’s had a shower or if he rubs his eyes after petting her, then he can get a reaction. Chris wanted to insure that there was one space in the apartment that was puppy-free. The bed made the most sense, so I respected this, even though I longed to cuddle with my puppy one night.

Occasionally I’d ask if she could sleep in the bed if he ever had to go out of town, provided I washed the sheets before he got home. I’d ask if she could sleep in the bed if she was freshly back from the groomer’s. Not insistent, mind you… just clarifying the procedures.

Elphie

The beginning of the end... or beginning...

Slowly, though, Elphie insidiously wormed her way into the bed. It started once when she was fresh from the groomer’s. As a special treat to her, we let her hang out on the bed a little. We were getting a new bed soon anyway, so what harm could it do. I think I decided to take a nap (I love weekend naps) and so Elphie stayed on the bed for that. You can see… she’s even got the bandanna from grooming on still. She’s clean! Practically sterilized! This is a one time treat! This will NOT be a regular occurrence! And she’s definitely not spending the night with us!

When we went to Myrtle Beach for a few days and our neighbors watched her, they said that they might let her sleep on their bed, since their dog does. We said that was fine, but she’s probably be happier in her crate (where she normally sleeps) and it turns out we were right. They tried it the first night and she was fussy and fidgety and they put her back in her crate.

After our very strange labor day weekend of football games and ER trips, Elphie had a grooming appointment on that Monday. As a very special treat to her because of such a weird and stressful weekend, we let her sleep in the bed on Monday night. She was a perfect girl… didn’t fuss around, just slept at the end of the bed in between Chris and I and was wonderful and sweet. But, again, this was a very special circumstance. A very special treat not to be repeated on a regular basis.

Except…

… Well, maybe every time she goes to the groomer’s. Then, she knows that she’s going to get to sleep in the bed and she’ll associate the groomer with good things! Not that she’s bad at the groomer’s… they actually love her and think she’s the cutest thing ever.

… Well, maybe right after we give her a bath at home in between groomer’s visits. I mean, she’s clean!

… Well, maybe right before we’re going to wash the sheets. I mean, she’s dirty, they’re dirty, what harm can it do?

… Well, maybe just because we feel like it tonight. Or because she was chilling there before we took her out for her last walk and she looked so cute and comfortable. Or because she’s not feeling well. Or because I’m not feeling well.

I think you can guess where we are now with her.

Sleeping sweetness

Doesn't she just look so comfy?

So Elphie sleeps on the bed whenever we feel like. Not every night. Some night’s she’s really good and last the whole night without fussing. Some nights, she gets moved to the crate in the middle of the night. There are still some rules. She only sleeps on top of the covers… she’s not allowed inside the covers (so that Chris doesn’t get bothered). And we try to keep her away from the pillows for the same reason. But as far as having a dog-free place in the house… yeah, that’s pretty much been thrown out the window now. Except for our dining room chairs. And that’s only because she can’t really stretch out on them.

 

Bringing Home Elphie

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Previously… after figuring out what kind of pup we wanted, we found a really promising pup.

So down to Ocala we went. When we got to the breeder’s and met the pup and her parents, I could see why she was the last one left in the litter. She was perfectly content with herself and her toys and wasn’t bouncing up and down to see the new people… most people will take the first puppy that comes to them. We found out that the original litter was 10: 5 boys and 5 girls. A really large litter for a tiny dog like a bichon. Two of the boys were lost early and the other three were stillborn. The five girls all survived. The mom was really interested in us…

Elphie, on her way home

Our first picture of Elphie... before she was even Elphie.

more than the pup was almost. The breeder liked that we knew the owners of one of his other pups. The pup was quiet the whole time… no yapping or barking at all, like we were afraid of. After asking more questions and cuddling with the pup more, we decided that we definitely wanted to get her. We filled out some paperwork, got the paperwork from him (she’s AKC registered), handed over the money (within our original budget), and after he gave us some food, one of her toys, and a collar and leash, we were on our way back home with our pup.
We put a jumper of Chris’ on my lap and I held her in the car. She whimpered as we pulled away from the breeder’s and I felt like we were doing the worst thing ever in taking her away from her mom. She continued to whimper and whine for about 20 minutes, as I held her and said “It’s okay… You’re okay.” She looked at Chris intently the entire ride. Eventually, she settled and I was able to get a picture of her and post it to facebook. It still felt a little surreal that we had a puppy. That she was our puppy and we were bringing her home. To our home. In the car, we starting brainstorming names a little. I suggested Cecelia, which Chris didn’t like. Katy was an option. And then Chris suggested Elphie. As in, Elphaba… as in Wicked. It seemed to work, but we didn’t want to jump into a name too soon. We brought her home, where we had one of her beds (we’d ordered a second one when it looked like the first wouldn’t ship for a month) and her crate and toys all set up for her.

Elphie

With the aforementioned duck. About 13 weeks old.

Yesterday, Chris found some videos on his phone. Check out Elphie meeting her duck (who would become her new best friend).

We got right on exposing her to new things. Our friends Bruce and Nikki came over that first night for dinner and she did great with the new people. Scott, Ashley and their baby came over the next night and so Elphie met a baby for the first time. That Thursday, she went to her first vet appointment and then we took her to meet my parents. A week after we brought her home, she came to a family dinner at my parents and met my brothers and sister-in-law and their baby. Two infants in one week! After a little bit of whimpering and a second “good night” the first night, she slept through the night from Night One and has done ever since.

We had the joys of potty training to deal with. I had a plan… had done ever since the first puppy that we hadn’t gotten. I knew I wanted to crate train her. Since, as a puppy, she wouldn’t be able to avoid accidents, I wanted to have a baby gate set up in the kitchen and keep her to the kitchen (the rest of our apartment is carpeted) when she might have an accident. We got puppy pads and worked on training her to go on those when she did need to go. Accidents happened, of course. And as the weeks went on, accidents on the carpet have pretty much stopped. When we take her outside, we walk her in one patch of grass first. When she does her business, she gets to explore and go elsewhere. Our big issue with her now is barking at other dogs while we’re walking. She’s so excited and she wants to go meet them… but we don’t want to reward the barking. We’re working on that with her. Taking her to the dog park to meet more dogs in a more neutral territory (I think she thinks she owns the whole complex here).

She did not like her first carrier at all. It was small and soft… I thought it would be nice for carrying her around it. She didn’t agree. We got her a larger carrier and she took to it immediately. It was great for when we took her down to St. Pete with us for the day (to see relatives) and it’s great for taking her somewhere with only one of us. She got to meet her brother, Buddy, and even got to spend a couple days with him when we went down to South Florida to see friends. They got along amazingly and need to have another play date again soon.

First groomer's visit

Bows and everything!

She’s been to the groomer once. She was practically catatonic when we picked her up. We thought we had the wrong dog. I think she was just overwhelmed and so shut down a little bit. I can relate to that. We’d given her a bath at home before that and I’d been brushing her every couple of days, but I’m sure that there was so much going on, she didn’t know what was happening. We’ve given her a few more baths since. She doesn’t love it yet. I don’t know what it particular… she doesn’t mind rain, so it’s not an aversion to water in general. It’s something we’re working on. We didn’t love the first vet we took her to, so on the recommendation of some of Chris’ co-workers, tried a new vet. The new vet’s office is much better. It’s about 25 minutes away, so less than convenient, but the staff and the vets are much more friendly and they gave us a goodie bag with tons of awesome stuff and information. We switched her from the food she was on to California Natural. There were some bumps along the way, but once her tummy adjusted, the switch was great. And then the pet store ran out and we’ve been having to give her wet food from the same brand this week. They’ll have more in on Monday. Phew. Her breath stinks on the wet food.

She’s pretty much the cutest thing ever. I mean, I might be biased, but I don’t think it’s that much of an exaggeration. And she’s very photogenic. I’ve taken more pictures of her than my brother has his two month old son. She’s getting bigger and bigger every day. And I love her so very much. I think she loves us quite a lot, too. She’s the perfect pup… she’s cuddly, but fun and playful. Too playful sometimes… she’s slammed herself into walls or table legs at high speed a couple times. She’s making us more social as we walk her and meet our neighbors. She’s got a boxer mix boyfriend called Mozart who lives across the way and a min-pin friend named Starbucks on the other side of the complex.

Most importantly, she does give me something to take care of. And something to take care of myself for. I’m keeping the apartment cleaner (well, the Dyson that Chris got helps with that, too), and doing what needs to be done more rather than just sitting on the couch and moping when I get home from work. Yeah, she adds some stress sometimes, too, like the time that she pooped and stepped all in it, getting it all over the kitchen floor, five minutes before I had a telephone interview. But at the end of the day, she’s cute enough to make up for all that.

Elphie

The Cutest.

Finding our puppy

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Previously… all the backstory on getting to our decision of getting a bichon.

So, we knew we wanted a bichon. I still wanted a rescue dog, and so we started looking around. There are a couple of bichon rescue groups in the state, but they never seem to get puppies in. We even looked up to Georgia and Alabama. Nothing. I finally accepted that we weren’t getting a rescue dog. It just seemed like we’d have to wait for years for the perfect one to come along. And I’m impatient. Think what you will of that. We started searching for breeders.

We asked Scott and Ashley for the info on their breeder, but they’d lost his phone number. They had a name and that he lived near Ocala. We

Seriously... Dogs Shows... *just* like this.

tried googling, but it was fruitless. Next, we tried googling the breeders in Florida, but we were really wary of them… I mean, we knew nothing about them. Feeling overwhelmed, we went to a local pet supply store and they suggested we speak to their sister-shop groomer’s. I went and spoke to the owner and she sat down with me for about 20 minutes, calling one of her clients the get the local breeder’s name and giving me tips about what a breeder is looking for in a buyer and a warning that all breeders are “kooky.” She also gave me the heads up that we’d be looking at spending $800 to $1000 for a pet-quality puppy from a reputable breeder. Now, we started out our puppy search looking for rescues, ready to drop $200 or so on a pup. We got a very generous Amazon gift card from Chris’ mum for Christmas, and we’d saved that to use for puppy supplies when the time came, so we had a sizeable budget for that. When we switched to breeders, we knew we were looking at more. We figured we could do up to $600. Now, having that bumped up to $1000? Yikes. I emailed with the local breeder, and while she didn’t have any available at the moment, she still gave me a ton of information about her and about the breed in general. Also, she informed me that her pups started at $1200. Double Yikes. We even went to a dog show, but got there too late to see the bichons. And then, we found out that I’d be losing my primary source of income… down to one, 20 hour a week job for me. A puppy seemed impossible.

Elphie before she was Elphie

The picture we couldn't help but fall in love with.

On January 20th, Chris was taking a really long time to get the mail. I looked outside and he was on the phone. I was a little concerned… was it his sister? Was everything okay? A work call? This was just weird. After he was done, he came up and let me know what the phone call was about. He’d still been keeping a casual eye out on some local listings for puppies. Because he knew that I was down and needed something to take care of. And so he’d emailed a few. And one of them called him back.

And we were meeting the breeder and the pup on Saturday.

We were meeting a pup.

YEEEEEE!!!!!!

The pup was a girl, 12 weeks old, last one left of her litter. She was crate trained already, but was a little vocal. This is what made us pause a little. We live in an apartment, so we didn’t want a loud dog that would be barking all the time. We focused on this so that we didn’t get too excited about something that might not be happening. On the other hand, we didn’t want to be completely unprepared if we did get her. So, Wednesday night, we had an Amazon shopping spree. We ordered a crate, a baby gate, a bed, bowls, travel bowls, a carrier and some toys. Chris signed up for Amazon Prime trial so that we could get it (mostly) before the weekend. We slept with one of the toys, a duck, on Friday night, so it would smell like us (that was my idea). The best part that got us *really* excited? The breeder… turned out to be the same breeder that Scott and Ashley got Buddy from. This puppy was Buddy’s SISTER! It seemed too good to be true. I tried to hold my excitement in check, but it just wasn’t working.

On Saturday the 23rd, we headed down to Ocala to meet the pup.

To Be Continued…

Finding a puppy… the long way

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I’ve always been a pet lover. Well… more specifically, I’ve always been a cat person. Well… a cat and rabbit person. My first pet at age 3 was a rabbit. When we moved to Florida, a friend of my mom’s cat had kittens. We chose the runt of the litter, who ended up living longer than any of the other kittens. He was a beautiful blue eyed albino cat that was deaf and was the loveliest cat I’ve ever known. We also got a hand-me-down rabbit from a fair that our neighbors didn’t want to keep. My dad built another hutch for him. When his hutch was blown down in a severe thunderstorm, he decided he liked free-roaming the backyard. At the age of 8, he died peacefully in the backyard and my dad buried him under his favorite bushes. When we had to move out of our house, my mom gave my cat away without telling me. Between college and living with my new family (who are anti-pet) and roommates, I haven’t had a pet other than fish since.

Around our first anniversary, Chris and I starting thinking about getting a dog. With Chris, cats and rabbits are unfortunately not an option, since he’s allergic. We’ve baby sat a Min Pin a few times, but Chris has to be really careful not to pet the dog and then his eyes and we have to be ultra vigilant about vacuuming up hair and such. So it’s not a breed that we could really live with. We wanted a dog that would be good in an apartment, would be cuddly sometimes, but not a mindless lap dog… a dog that would still be fun. A dog that would be good with children when we got around to having those and one that was from a rescue organization. We did some research into dogs that might not bother Chris… I’d mentioned bichon frises, I think, but Chris thought they were too fru-fru. That left us with (mostly) minature schnauzers and poodles. My aunt has a giant schnauzer, and Chris doesn’t love that dog. I don’t love the poodles that I’ve met, but was willing to give them a chance. And we wanted a puppy.

Aren't they cute? Too bad it was too good to be true.

We started to go to adoption fairs and speak to some local rescue organizations to let them know what we were interested in. I kept an eye on Petfinder. Around October of 2008, I found a listing for some cockapoo pups from a rescue group about an hour south.I emailed back and forth and put down a deposit on the puppies, getting ready to meet them. Chris warned me to take it slow and not get invested. Then, the listing changed a bit and noted that the mother was a schnauzer. Um… there’s no schnauzer in cockapoo. I emailed back and forth some more and it became clear that we couldn’t be sure that these puppies would be okay for Chris. And even if the puppies were, the adults might not be. I got my deposit back and we stopped looking for a bit. It was really heartbreaking. I don’t know how people who try to adopt kids and have them taken back by the birth mother deal with it… I can’t even imagine how heartbreaking it must be.

So we stopped looking. Football season came around again and we found ourselves going to our friend Scott and Ashley’s for the games sometimes. And Chris met their dog Buddy, a bichon. Buddy was about 3 years old and they kept him cut in an all over cut, rather than the typical fru-fru bichon cut. Buddy is one of the coolest dogs in the world. He’s cute and cuddly and fun and playful and hearty. Chris loved him. And even better… he didn’t bother Chris’ allergies at all. So now we knew what we wanted. A bichon.

To Be Continued…