This change isn’t simply something that can be solved by telling people to just “not share anything you wouldn’t want everyone to see.” Your cover photo and profile picture are Public, with no ability to change this setting. Yes, you can refrain from using personal pictures for those. You can use a pseudonym (although this has been against Facebook Terms and Conditions in the past). You can lock down your profile even more than you have it locked down already. You can block the people you want to hide from (of course, knowing that you’re on Facebook now, they can always create another profile to harass you from). But someone shouldn’t have to go to all that trouble just to be able to interact with other people in the network. Putting the onus on the abused to censor themselves and hide in the shadows from their abusers is a) morally unconscionable, and b) cutting them off from vital lifelines.
Read my latest for Persephone Magazine at the link: Facebook Stops Even Pretending to Care About Privacy with Latest Settings Update by Crystal Coleman for Persephone Magazine.
This week’s articles both had some really great discussion going on in the comments, so click through to Persephone Magazine to check it out and make sure to check out the rest of the article by my fellow writers. We’re got a smart bunch of ladies over there.
One of my fictional Positivity Mentors (that’ll be next week’s topic) is Phoebe from Friends. While her character may have been conceived and initially portrayed as the dumb blonde, the writers clearly saw that Lisa Kudrow could give them so much more than that and created one of the most interesting characters in television history. From her bouncing careers to her street smarts from being homeless, to the search for her birth father, and her carrying surrogate babies for her brother, Phoebe takes every challenge that life throws at her and hits it out of the park with a smile on her face. But the thing I love most about Phoebe? The fact that she unabashedly embraces silliness.
Scalping, academic publishing, baby blues, and blow-outs? It’s an all over the place episode of Bones, this week, and even Brennan ends up seeming kind of disgusted at the killer.
Sorry about the late update this week (I’ll explain more in a post tomorrow). This is what I’ve been doing this week at Persephone Magazine.
We’re going to put all our hard work on positivity into action this week with a challenge that might push many of you outside of your comfort zones. This week, I want you to put yourself out there and try something new.
How does this relate to positivity? What’s your thought process when you decide not to try something new? Does it go something like this:
Oh, hey, here’s a cool event that I’d like to go to. But I don’t know anyone who’s going. Well, I could go by myself. But what if I get lost on the way there? And what if everyone there already knows each other? And I won’t have anyone to talk to. And they’ll look at me like I’m that weirdo loner person. And I’ll probably get there early and be even more awkward. You know, it’s just not worth going because it’s not it matters whether I go or not since no one I know is going. And I have lots of Game of Thrones to read, so, it’s just better all around if I just stay home. Yeah, good decision.
The amount of negative self-talk contained in a line of reasoning like that is astounding when you break it down.
This week on Bones: An extreme couponer finds herself on the wrong end of a semi-truck (as in, underneath it), Brennan goes back to work, and Cam’s daughter finds a new love interest… in the lab. With bonus Tina Majorino!
When Nick Offerman entered the room in an unbuttoned American flag shirt, carrying a guitar, and did a victory lap around the room, I knew this was going to be an awesome night.
For those not familiar with Nick Offerman, he is best known as the libertarian, woodworking, curmudgeonly director of the Pawnee Parks Department on the NBC show Parks and Recreation. He recently had the opportunity to do a small tour of universities, testing out some stand-up and songs. I was lucky enough to snag a seat for Wednesday nights show at the University of Florida. In case you aren’t in one of the areas he’ll be visiting (there’s no schedule posted, but check your local universities… this gig was only announced about a week in advance), here’s a run down of what an evening with Nick Offerman is like.
Positivity Challenge Week 13: Body Positivity
In this week’s Positivity Challenge, I tackle Body Positivity, which is one of the hardest things I’ve written about since I started the Positivity Challenge.
You may think that body negativity only affects you when you look in the mirror, but having a negative view of yourself is something that you carry around all the time. Having a negative view of your body or your appearance has a trickle-down effect. If you feel your shape is frumpy, you try to cover it up rather than dressing to flatter your curves. If you hate your hair, you won’t bother styling it or even drying it some mornings. The next time you look in the mirror, the person looking back confirms what you feel about yourself and so propels the negativity in a vicious circle. Even without looking at cases of diagnosed body dysmorphic disorder, some studies have shown that women in particular have a distorted view of their own bodies (which, of course, can then lead to BDD and eating disorders in severe cases). In a 2010 study, researchers found that the brains of the participants warped the size of their hands in their own mind, and researchers stated that the same warped view could be extrapolated to the rest of the body. In other words, body positivity is something we need to actively work for since our brains are naturally working against us.
Read more at Persephone.
Recap: Bones 7.07 “The Prisoner in the Pipes”
On a lighter note, the TV show Bones is back and that means my recaps are, too! And with a great episode, too, in “The Prisoner in the Pipes:”
In baby news, Booth convinces Sweets to use psychology tricks to try and talk Brennan into having a hospital birth. Sweets doesn’t want to take sides, but Booth plays the “but I thought you were a friend” card and Sweets is totally played because he just wants big brother Booth to accept him. When he pulls B&B in to do a “partner assessment” and asks a bunch of leading questions, he totally gives away the goat when he uses a totally hypothetical example of home birth vs. hospital birth. Brennan is rightly pissed and done listening to male opinions on where her daughter is born. She does provide a compromise to Booth, though… she’ll let their daughter be baptized. Every child needs mythology, she claims, which of course Booth takes objection to. Brennan points out how the whole Mary, Joseph, no room at the inn, manger birth was a pretty darn well plotted story.
Read more at Persephone.
This week on Persephone Magazine, I hit the three month mark of the Positivity Challenge.
Continuing in our effort to internalize positivity, this week I’m going to tackle a somewhat contentious topic: Exercise. In fact, I’m going to try and use the word exercise as little as possible. How about we call it “Movement”? Getting up and moving can be one of the hardest things to actually start doing, but the rewards can boost your positivity and mood in general more than anything other than pharmaceuticals practically.
You’re heard it before and you’ll hear it again after this: Exercise releases endorphins. Beyond the effects that physical fitness has on your body, the effects it has on your mood and mental health can be even more powerful. Some studies have shown that it can even make your brain process information more effectively. From personal experience, I can vouch for the boost in energy and mood that comes along with an increase in my level of activity. It’s really hard to know where to start, though, especially if you’re not already in a habit of getting some movement into your day.
The post has been getting a really great response. Writing about fitness is always kind of a touchy topic and I think I managed to strike a really nice balance. Share your thoughts at Persephone Magazine.
Check out the articles I’ve written this week for Persephone Magazine:
Unless you were completely off the grid last week, you probably saw either Invisible Children’s KONY 2012 video, the backlash against it, or both. While there’s a wealth of critical analysis of whether the KONY 2012 campaign is actually doing any good, there’s no doubt that it got people’s attention. So let’s examine the good, the bad, and the to-be-determined of KONY 2012.
For further reading about the background behind the child soldiers, the current state of Uganda, and Betty Bigombe, who has been doing so much within the country to broker peace, also check out Mary Anne Limoncelli’s article from last week.
Obviously, when surrounded by people going through tough times, it’s easy to be thankful for the minor problems (or lack thereof) that you have. What really hit me this week, though, was my coworker’s reaction to everything happening. Rather than being upset or stressed or worried, she knew that she was in the best hands and couldn’t do anything to affect the outcomes at the moment. When she talked to our boss after her biopsy, she kept saying how “neat” an experience it was. I’d like to think I could take a little credit for my positive influence in the office, but in actuality, I don’t know if I would have been focusing on the neatness of the experience. That was definitely a lesson for me!
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